However positive I am being, I felt this was a subject that needed to be broached.
At times like these, between the fragile state of the Middle East and Europe, the holiday season and family time approaching rapidly and waves of left wing activists trying to convince us that their next “victim” is worthy of our press attention, the mind is drawn to morality, happiness, human wellbeing and what it all means to us anyway.
And for some reason the attention seems to currently be on those things that make you feel best.
Give money to the homeless man with the dog because they might not get food this Winter.
Let the refugees in because our government caused this mess.
Invite round those relatives you hate because you’re still family and this is family time.
Do whatever makes you feel warm and fuzzy inside.
Even if the homeless man uses all the extra money for alcohol and leaves his dog ownerless.
Even if some terrorists are hiding in the refugee crowds.
Even if those relatives start an argument that further divides the family.
Because that good feeling is what matters…
Except it isn’t. The nicest, least judgemental, least cynical action isn’t always the most virtuous. Sometimes being virtuous doesn’t feel nice.
Sometimes it means directing authorities to the man and his dog so they at least have shelter, even if they are unhappy or separated.
Sometimes it means protecting yourself and your country rather than giving the refugees a chance at your quality of life.
Sometimes it means avoiding family conflict, even if you are ill thought of for a month or if you lose someone forever.
Sometimes, the most virtuous, healthiest action hurts, makes you feel guilty, makes you sad or blows back at you. And that’s OK. Virtue won’t necessarily make you, or anyone else, happy. It just sets the world to rights.
So do right by yourself, your family and your friends. If you wish to do right by others, make them healthy, not happy. And don’t worry if the right decision doesn’t feel good. That’s not what it’s supposed to do.
TTFN and Happy Hunting.