10 Ways To Slim Your Waist.

A post I put on the RedPillWives reddit, on how to make the most of your natural figure and build a feminine shape healthily.

I have been asked about this before and explained to friends and people who inquired, but decided to deliver a proper post, to help everyone out.

As we all know, men like a teeny tiny waist. Being slim indicates youth, fertility, that you are not pregnant, health, etc on many levels. However, the most important aspect is not actually the waist on its own. Men also love hip and bum fat. Hence why the waist to hip ratio (WHR] is so important in human sexuality.

Besides that, we want a nice WHR for ourselves, as we are programmed to want to look pretty for our partners and to pursue health and wellbeing for ourselves and our children. Which means that overall, a small WHR is a great confidence boost!

So, how does a girl get herself a booty without sacrificing too much of that whittled waist? She tricks her body into giving her both.

Well, not so much tricking, as using what we know about biology, human evolution, nutrition and exercise to train our bodies to be the best they can be. Without further ado, here are some tips to maximize your WHR.

1. Know your body.

Sorry, but this won’t do magic. If you already have a WHR of 0.7, are very lean or are just straight boned, you can’t change that. However, all the following tips will help to make the most of your body and make sure it stays where it ought to be.

2: Eat omega oils and fat-soluble nutrients.

When your waist is small and your hips are wide, that booty is made of omegas. Designed to nourish fetuses and infants, the fat in these areas is rich in all sorts of tasty nutrients! When these nutrients are scarce your body may strip your hip, thigh and bum fat to get them, resulting in a smaller hip than you might like.

Make sure to supplement omegas 3, 6 and 9 either through oils or through diet. Also make sure to consume plenty of vitamins D and E, which can contribute to growing healthy hip fat.

The added bonus to this vanity: you will be more fertile and your kids will come out slightly smarter and better fed as babies.

3: Cut fast release carbs and excess salts.

Things white sugar and table salt have in common:




in everything

make you hold onto water weight

Focus on natural sugars, sugars with fibre and sugars with fat so as to not play around with your insulin and water storage. Limit your added salt, especially when combined with simple starches and sugars.

The added bonus to this vanity: Your body will be glad of a sugar detox and resensitizing your insulin response to sugar and kidneys to salt is great for your overall health.

4: Cut the booze.

Not out, but at least down.

Alcohol may be estrogenic, but it also promotes fat retention around the torso, especially beers and ales.

Opt for a casual glass of wine and be sure not to drink more than once or twice a week, if that.

The added bonus to this vanity: Sobriety has many benefits, health-wise and also in your social life. Consume fewer empty calories, relax your liver, spend more time actually talking to friends, keep cool and focused all day.

5: Drink plenty of water.

Yes, I said to avoid water retention. But drinking more water does not make you retain it. If anything, water in bulk goes through you. What drinking more water does do is it helps to keep your digestive tract and kidneys cleaner and ensures you don’t dehydrate. Dehydration can cause water retention and inflammatory responses, so it’s better prevented than cured.

The added bonus to this vanity: Drinking more water may elevate your mood, help clear your skin and reduce cravings for salt and sugars.

6: Exercise your bum.

Not everything about your bum is fat and bones. Some of it is muscle. To develop the curved spine, strong and sleek thighs, and firm cheeks you desire, do bodyweight or weighted exercises designed to build up the upper leg and buttocks, such as squats or stair sprints. Not only will the extra muscle tighten and shape your healthy omega fats, but the activity will work on your posture, bringing your hips into the perfect position to show off your assets (giggle].

The added bonus to this vanity: By improving your overall muscle tone you are increasing your base metabolic expenditure, lengthening your life and making your immune system stronger (except against colds]. By improving your overall fitness you are making life in general much easier and more pleasant.

7: Do the upward abdominal lock.

I have done this since I rediscovered yoga and I didn’t even remember what it was called til I looked it up again earlier. But doing this over the years seems to have been working wonders on counteracting the muscle expansion I get from powerlifting.

When you build your abs with situps, crunches and weights, you are building them out, making your waist wider. What this does is the opposite: by tucking your waist in and holding it there you are activating the parts of your belly muscles that pull everything front to back. Over time this becomes an aspect of your posture, giving you a permanent, natural “sucked in belly”.

The added bonus to this vanity: better digestion, reduced menstrual cramps.

8: Belly dance.

Again more muscular whittling. Belly dancing activates all the muscles in your core and trains your hips to move in their full range of motion. The result is twofold:

Firstly you are tightening your lateral muscles, making your front profile more of an hourglass.

Secondly you are making your hip movements wider, so they move more as you walk, giving the illusion that they take more space. The sexy slink, basically.

The added bonus to this vanity: Bellydancing is great fun, a good way to exercise and a fun addition to bedtime routines.

9: Destress.

It is a well documented fact that stress masculinizes the female form, making our waists bigger, our hips narrower and even making us grow additional body hair.

Find out something that lets you destress mentally, physically and emotionally. Indulge it. Reducing your stress and relaxing is crucial to a feminine figure.

The added bonus to this vanity: Lowered risk of mental health problems, ulcers, heart problems, etc.

10: Lose weight.

Ultimately, whatever you do to maximize the body you have, always bear in mind that sometimes the key is just to drop the pounds. If you have folds around your belly when standing casually, there is plenty of fat to be lost there. Beyond losing the folds it really is up to you and your man to decide what you like, but I would say that aiming below a UK 16 is better for your health, statistically speaking.

The added bonus to this vanity: Losing body fat is well documented to improve your all round health, especially in the long term.

And there you have it, several ways of making your waist smaller, your hips and bum bigger and your body curvier in a natural, healthy way!

Hope it is helpful, and feel free to ask questions about, add to or correct any of the points.

TTFN and Happy Hunting!


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Being All You Can Be. Part V: Enjoyment.

In the last two sections on being all you can be we addressed the two financial, or โ€œsurvivalโ€ sides to hard work: monetized work and self-sufficiency. Doing both of these things in some way will maximize your life by minimizing expense, giving you some spending money and freeing you from reliance on others. However what are we meant to do with all this spare time and money? Enjoy it, of course!

The other thing that makes work worthwhile, beyond money and independence, is enjoyment, pure and simple. This is what you have been working towards.

Everyone should have a hobby or two or three, but not all hobbies are created equal. Some hobbies eat more into your free time and money, some hobbies even generate time and money, some hobbies are pure dopamine and some build us up. So here are a few points on which to evaluate our hobbies.

1: Money.

Hobbies can be sorted into the expensive, the balanced and the paid.

An expensive hobby would be one you can’t afford to do weekly without controlling other expenses. For me that would be shopping and dressing up, which I love but just cannot justify as a full time hobby.

A balanced hobby would be one you can afford to do weekly without going into the red. For me that would be painting or dancing, which cost very little, but generally still cost me.

An earning hobby would be one where you can make enough money to pay for at least the expenses of the hobby, if not enough to give you a profit! An example for me is writing, which is also my job, and gardening, which saves me money.

2: Time.

Hobbies can be sorted into the no-time, the casual and the time-saving.

A no-time hobby would be one that you need to schedule in carefully to be able to do it. For me that would be my comic book project, which eats away the hours.

A casual hobby would be one that you can indulge every now and again without scheduling. For me that would be my blog, which I can fit in weekly or daily.

A time-saving hobby would be one that in the long run saves you time. For me that would be my budgeting and meal planning, which relax me, but also free up time over the week.

3: Productivity.

Hobbies can be sorted into sinks, even and productive.

A sink hobby would be one that eats away at productive time and yields few results. For me that would be anime, which can easily eat productive time.

An even hobby would be one you can happily do daily as it does not affect your productive time. For me that would be painting and gardening, where the results are not frequent, but the effort is not free of results.

A productive hobby would be one that yields solid, real results. For me that would be drawing or writing, where the results are immediately in front of me.

4: Health.

Hobbies can be sorted into detrimental, harmless and fitness.

A detrimental hobby would be one that actively hurts your health in the long run. For me that would be anime, where by sitting around watching something I am negatively impacting my physical and mental health.

A harmless hobby would be one that isn’t healthy or particularly unhealthy. For me that would be dancing, which is in theory good for me, but not required on top of my fitness regime. For others, dancing might be a fitness hobby, as it may be a vital core of their exercise regime!

A fitness hobby would be one that improves your health actively. For me that would be gardening, which does contribute to my fitness via constant low-level activity.

Myers-Brigss style, you can take the first letter of each of the four categories to categorize your hobbies. Another way of doing it would be to number each result in each of the four categories from 1-3, with 1 being least desirable and 3 being most.

Let’s use two examples: soap operas, ballroom dancing and growing berries. Assuming all three are a single person’s hobbies, all of which they enjoy equally, here is their breakdown.

Soap operas: Balanced, as it does not cost or earn; Casual, as long as they are flexible with watching it online; Sink, as it uses time and energy with no reward; Detrimental, as sitting still for extended periods and tuning out are bad for mind and body.

Result: BCSD, or 2211. Not the best hobby.

Ballroom dancing: Balanced, as even classes are inexpensive; No-time, as both classes and casual dancing need preparation and deciation; Even, as eventually results show in health and skill; Fitness, assuming it’s core to their exercise.

Result: BNEF, or 2123. A good hobby.

Growing berries: Earning, as it saves money; Casual, needs minimal involvement; Productive, as results are immediately visible and soon edible; Harmless, as it is active but not intense.

Result: ECPH, or 3232. A very good hobby.

That doesn’t mean soap operas need to be neglected! It is just a tool for considering how we use our enjoyable time.


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Fit Fiday, Fat Friday VI. Off the wagon, on the wagon.


Seems I am not a hermaphrodite, although much more cannot be said yet. Here’s hoping. ๐Ÿ˜€


A lot of garden work needs doing right now, so we’ve moved my weights onto a day-on-day off session. The order looks like this:

Day on: main weights session.

Day off: yoga during the day, light or bodyweight version of the main session.

Most days: shearing, digging, hoeing, carrying things in the garden.

2-3 times a day: run the dog in the garden.

Not too bad, not as good as I would like. Gained some excess fat so just making sure I get no more calories than I need and fasting in the mornings, which is nice and keeps me focused.


That said, I have been eating a few more sweet things and wheaty things, which may explain the issues I’ve had with fat and water weight. Been eating much more cleanly the past few days, lots of vegetables and lean protein.

How did your week in fitness go?

Oatcake Wraps.

Traditional oatcakes are made with butter, cheese or maybe bacon and sausages in them. They are brilliant. Some day I may master making them from scratch and then all you furrners can try them. ๐Ÿ˜›

Jon is always looking for more ways to eat oats. Porridges, oatcakes, stews, breads. Although he stopped short of the savoury porridge that a friend and I tried out, which was actually pretty nice. However when we discovered derbyshire outcakes which were so thick and heavy they were basically tortilla wraps anyway, he just had to try them with something other than bacon or sausages in them.

So here are a few things we have done with heavy oatcakes, which make good, healthy, albeit stodgy dinners for hungry Celts.

1: Chili chicken.


  • 1 thick oatcake
  • butter as desired
  • 1 chicken thigh or leg
  • 1/4 onion
  • 1/2 pepper
  • 2tbsp chili sauce
  • salt and pepper to taste


  • chopping board and knife
  • baking tray


  1. Place the chicken in a tray.
  2. Slice the onion and pepper. Place over the chicken.
  3. Season and roast.
  4. Warm and butter the oatcake.
  5. Strip the chicken and shred the vegetables.
  6. Fill the oatcake and warm once more under the grill or by microwave.

2: Beef and vegetables.


  • 1 thick oatcake
  • butter as desired
  • 100g beef mince
  • 100g mixed vegetables
  • 50g cooked black turtle beans
  • 1/4 tsp cayenne pepper
  • 1/4 tsp soy sauce
  • 1/2 tsp cilantro/coriander
  • salt and pepper to taste


  • chopping board and knife
  • small pot


  1. Brown the beef in the bottom of the pot.
  2. Slice the vegetables finely and add them to the beef.
  3. Lightly cook in the spices until the fluid is all gone, save the coriander for near the end.
  4. Once stewed down, add the coriander and set aside.
  5. Warm and butter the oatcake.
  6. Fill with the mix and warm once more.

3: Eggs and ham.


  • 1 thick oatcake
  • butter as desired
  • 2 eggs
  • 10ml cream
  • 100g ham
  • smoked paprika, salt and pepper as desired


  • chopping board and knife
  • frying pan


  1. Whisk the eggs with the spices and cream.
  2. Dice the ham and lightly fry with the eggs, scrambling as you go.
  3. Warm and butter the oatcake before the eggs are cooked.
  4. Fill the oatcake with the eggs and ham mix.

Oatcakes are a great food and I’ll keep working on the main recipe so everyone can replicate them as nature intended. ๐Ÿ˜€


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10 Things That Grow In Clay And Frost.

If you’re anything like me, you love to DIY as much as possible.

Which means that growing food in difficult soil winds us up continually.

Here are 10 things that survived clay soil and frosty winters year after year here, making garden food easy to grow and maintain.

1: Potatoes.

Adored worldwide as a staple, potatoes survive almost anything. Normally by early Spring the leftovers of my Winter harvest has begun chitting (technical term here, no laughing!] and I can plant them out. But even when I didn’t my potatoes reseeded themselves from the tiny spuds left behind last year.

Literally any time a potato grows shoots, plant it out and see what happens.

Just don’t plant out chitting potatoes straight into frost. Plant out clean ones early, green ones later. The shoots can be devoured by frost and you will waste good potatoes.

2: Woody berries.

Woody berry bushes like blackberries, raspberries, currants and gooseberries all do great in our soil and even through frosts. They thrive in hedge areas.

3: Parsnips.

Our parsnips reseed themselves every year, although I will often let a single ‘snip become fully mature and harvest all the seeds to keep over Winter, to minimize crop loss. They do great and are actually tastier once the first Winter frost has nibbled them.

4: Brassicas.

Not great at reseeding themselves in our soil, but they are persistent. Still got three broccoli bushes from two years ago. They have never floured, so I never picked them, but I gather the leaves in Winter and they dutifully regrow in Spring.

5: Marjoram.

Cut back and dry out your marjoram over Winter, leave it alone over Spring and Summer to regrow. It’s a beautiful, fragrant herb that does well pretty much anywhere.

6: Strawberries.

I always thought strawberries were fickle plants that keeled over and died at nothing at all. Apparently only the leaves are. I planted our strawbs out where they can be guarded by weeds and parsnips and they are thriving. They just need a bit of foliage around them to help retain enough water, a wall against late frosts and a little sunshine and they produce berries even in the harshest soil.

7: Mint.

Mint grows everywhere and will dominate your whole garden.

8: Rhubarb.

Rhubarb is not at all hard to grow. Just make sure the roots don’t get choked by grass or weeds as they get established, pull the stems out instead of cutting them and clear up after Autumn is over. They will grow back.

9: Chives.

A little like mint, established chives will regrow year after year without a problem and slowly creep across your garden.

10: Raddishes.

Never had bad luck with raddishes anywhere. Sometimes not had particularly good luck and this soil is awful for them compared to milder, softer soils. But they still grow here. Sow them out, wait, and they will rise up for you to eat all through Summer and Autumn. They don’t really reseed, though, as we eat them before they flower.

And those are 10 plants that survive our garden. What troubles does your garden have? Got any gardening staples?

TTFN and Happy Hunting!


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Being All You Can Be. Part IV: Self-Sufficiency.

In Part II I outlined how there are three pillars to being all you can be: finance, self-sufficiency and enjoyment.ย  And all of them are crucial to being a well-rounded person.

Part III addressed how finance is important to being all you can be, and a few ways of contributing financially.

But where you cannot afford a service or product, where your financing abilities fall short, you needn’t go without. After all, if you need to, you can do almost anything yourself. Here are some self-sufficiency skills which will save you money on projects you may not be able to realistically outsource.

  1. Grow your own. If you can grow the food you eat, you eat better and save money. Consider getting herbs and a bonsaid lemon tree for the kitchen; tomatoes, courgettes, oranges, strawberries and raddishes on balconies; carrots, potatoes, rhubarb, berries and cabbages in small gardens, and fruit trees and various crops in bigger gardens.
  2. Cooking, cleaning, laundry. Outsourcing these, even in the form of buying prepared meals, hiring a carpet cleaner or getting ironing done at the dry-cleaner, is expensive in the long term. Cut costs by looking after your hosue from scratch yourself.
  3. Basic plumbing and electrics. Plumbers and electricians cost an awful lot. Which is fine for big jobs, after all we don’t want a flood, death by electrocution or both. But when it comes to changing light switches and cleaning u-bends, we should be masters at looking after our house’s workings.
  4. Woodwork. Anything from mending a shelf to making your own pagoda, the more woodwork you can do the better your house can look for less.
  5. Feminine arts. As with woodwork, repeated again. The more you can make and mend on your own using sewing, knitting, crochet, darning and weaving, the less you need to buy to look and feel great.
  6. Literally anything. Think of things you spend on and ask yourself: can I do that? You may be surprised!

Next week we will look into enjoyment, the things we can do to make the most of all the time and money we free up with the previous two pillars.

TTFN and Happy Hunting!


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Cured Meat Risotto.

We’re a big fan of cured meats in this house. But putting them in stews and sandwiches is not the only thing you can do with them. Cured meats make great additions to fried, broiled and sauteed dishes as well. Here is a simple risotto you can make with almost any cured meat.


  • 1 cup dry rice
  • 300g cured meat
  • 1 cup chopped onions and cabbage
  • 2 cups of spinach
  • 1 head of garlic
  • 1tsp salt
  • 1tbsp smoked paprika
  • 2tbsp olive oil
  • water


  • chopping board and knife
  • frying pan
  • kettle


  1. Chop the onions and cabbage finely.
  2. Add them to a frying pan and lightly cover with boiling water. Simmer until tender.
  3. As they simmer, chop the cured meat and garlic.
  4. Once the onions and cabbage are tender, add the meat and garlic.
  5. Once the garlic is soft, add the salt and smoked paprika and stir in the dry rice.
  6. Top up the water as needed, very gradually, until the rice is tender and has absorbed all the water.
  7. Drizzle with olive oil and stir in the spinach.
  8. Serve with grated cheese and/or garlic bread.
For help starting out homemaking, check out The ESSENTIAL Beginner Homemaker’s Guide. For help budgeting all your everday and not-so-everyday essentials, from food to transport to clothes, check out On A Budget: The good homemaker’s guide to economizing.