The idea of “penis envy” is thrown around a lot. And, in its simplest form it’s a ridiculous notion, that women, or some women, have an intrinsic desire to grow a random appendage we’ve never owned. However, on a more complex level, it is absolutely true.
Almost all humans have a drive to breed, to recreate ourselves, to reproduce. And although not all humans experience it this way, to the majority of people that means a desire for heterosexual reproduction: the union of a man and a woman resulting in offspring. Which means the majority of people desire the opposite sex. So men want vaginas and hips and breasts and wombs, and women want muscles and penises and testicles. We also desire for that offspring to be provided for, so men and women alike want an abundance of food, a secure home and a fair weather environment.
In a natural situation, men seek this from women and women seek it from men.
But this is not a natural situation. Today men fear women and women fear men. We’re encouraged to. We all also fear children and reproducing and sharing our resources. So the natural path of pairing up with someone who possessed what we need, making offspring with them and raising that offspring together is scary to many modern Western people.
And what is a modern Western person to do?
Well, in the past when men did not provide resources women would work. And in societies where breastfeeding is difficult some men have redeveloped the ability to breastfeed. Reproduction finds a way. Therefore, in a society where men are scary, women seek to replace them. Women want to own their own muscles and penis and testes. Women want to earn their own keep, support themselves, be their own partner and guide and guardian. Because men are too scary to provide this. Hence: penis envy. Few Western women want to grow an actual penis. But many want to replace the man it’s attached to with something less scary. A sanitized IVF process. An emotionless, powerless dildo. Something that meets the need without having a man at the other end of it. And they will idealize themselves as masculine, even when objectively they are not. Even when genuinely masculine women scare them as much as men do. Because they want the security and the human sexual duality. But they don’t want the man it’s attached to.
As part and parcel of the process, Western men also have an amount of “womb envy”. They still want to reproduce, to pass on their genes, to enjoy the company of women and to create excess resources and shower them down on their infants. But as women and reproduction are scary, men seek proxies. Men want their own breasts and hips and vaginas. Men seek to replace the womb with a sterile process such as adoption or artificial wombs. Men accumulate resources but are loathe to part with the excess because they have no trust in infants. Women and children are too scary to be part of their lives. So they seek to replace them on their own.
Which leads us back to autoandrophilia and autogynophilia: the attraction to yourself as the opposite sex. As we live in a world where everything to do with reproduction is too scary, Western humans seek sufficiency. And that sufficiency, in its most extreme form, is replacing the thing we desire. If we had the bodies we desire, then we would not feel pressured to venture out and interact with scary people to get what we want from them. Therefore, at the end of the day, “penis envy” and “womb envy” is simply autoandrophilia and autogynophilia: the idea that you would make a much sexier man or woman than any real person.
And when you start to see it, you see it everywhere.
TTFN and Happy Hunting!